ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS

 Just to share with bloggers out there...
Having problems on these..but mine is not as bad cos I'm not Hot-tempered but I'm short-tempered. So I think I can cause I used 2b worse when I was a teenager.

If you find that your angry outbursts are negatively affecting your relationships with family, friends, co-workers and even complete strangers, it's probably time to change the way you express your anger.

Here are some tips to get your anger under control:

• Take a "time out." Count to 10 before reacting or leave the situation altogether.
• Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets, for example.
• Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.
• Express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.
• Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret.
• Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.
• Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.
• Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
• Use humor to defuse your anger, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.(Dat's what I do at times)


• Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.

You can practice many of these strategies on your own.
But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or has escalated into violence, you may benefit from seeing a psychotherapist or an anger management professional. Role playing in controlled situations, such as anger management classes, can help you practice your techniques.

source: http://www.cnn.com/

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when u r angry + sad= negative thinking



do u know U'll look very ugly/unpleasant when u r angry ?

Tips to control your anger:
1. Calm down
2. Ease & relax your mind
3. Take a breath
4. Think rationally


adapt from MediaCorp Suria channel TV Programme :EQ

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One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger.


When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows:

1. Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are incompatible.
2. Anger sends marriages and other family relationships off-course.
3. Anger reduces our social skills, compromising other relationships, too.
4. Anger means lost business, because it destroys relationships.
5. Anger also means losing business that you could have won in a more gracious mood.
6. Anger leads to increased stress (ironic, since stress often increases anger).
   
   * We make mistakes when we are angry, because anger makes it harder to process information.

People are beginning to wake up to the dangers of anger and the need for anger management skills and strategies.




Many people find anger easy to control. Yes, they do get angry. Everybody does. But some people find anger easier to manage than others. More people need to develop anger management skills.
For those who have a tough time controlling their anger, an anger management plan might help. Think of this as your emotional control class, and try these self-help anger management tips:

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #1Ask yourself this question: "Will the object of my anger matter ten years from now?" Chances are, you will see things from a calmer perspective.

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #2
Ask yourself: "What is the worst consequence of the object of my anger?" If someone cut in front of you at the book store check-out, you will probably find that three minutes is not such a big deal.

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #3
Imagine yourself doing the same thing. Come on, admit that you sometimes cut in front of another driver, too ... sometimes by accident. Do you get angry at yourself?

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #4
Ask yourself this question: "Did that person do this to me on purpose?" In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.
ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #5
Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.
ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #6Try some "new and improved" variations of counting to ten. For instance, try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in between each number. Deep breathing -- from your diaphragm -- helps people relax.

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #7
Or try pacing your numbers as you count. The old "one-steamboat-two-steamboat, etc." trick seems kind of lame to me. Steamboats are not the best devices to reduce your steam. How about "One-chocolate-ice-cream-two-chocolate-ice-cream", or use something else that you find either pleasant or humorous.
ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #8:
Visualize a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind. Make it your stress-free oasis.

NEW BONUS ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP #7
"If ever u r angry towards some other people, U've learned not to just utter bad words but rather U write on a journal all what U could have said to somebody and after going through it again and again U sort of get relieved and forgive and forget what the other person did to u. That has saved u a lot."


**ps: me gonna try these tips

Anyone has your point of views,comments & tips to share, u r welcome to leave your comments here..